You tell yourself everyday it sucks being single and you’d do anything to be with that guy or girl you’ve been eyeing in class. The only problem is that you have another core belief being that you can never be with that person. Kind of hard to be in a loving relationship when you don’t even believe you deserve it right?
How can you change this right now?
Determine what stemmed these beliefs in the first place. Has something disempowering your parents, your peers, or an ex say to you previously always been in the back of your mind? Are these statements true? More often then not disempowering statements others tell you aren’t even true. And if they are they can always be changed.
Determine your strengths, weaknesses, and opportunities. Think about your character, your features, and how much value you can provide in a relationship. Write down your strengths and what you can work on.
Don’t think this will work? Keep reading and I’ll change your mind.
Your Actions Don’t Match Up to What You Want
If you keep telling everyone else why you hate being single and how no one wants to date you then they’ll start to believe you. Since it looks like you’ve already convinced yourself that you’re a bad catch then other people will thank you for giving them a heads up.
So if you’re sick of your current situation then instead of complaining try doing these basic things:
Do one small thing to improve your mindset. Eliminate your disempowering beliefs (I’m ugly, He/She is too good for me, I’m not good enough, I’m not relationship material, I’m terrible with the opposite sex…) by simply listening to motivational material each day, accepting that you have to continual work on yourself, and by realizing that your current situation never determines where you’ll end up.
Do one thing out of your comfort zone each day. You can do everything above, but it won’t get you anywhere if you don’t actually do anything. To grow out of an unfavorable situation you have to continually change your disempowering beliefs and habits into actions that will get you the results you want. So in order to get the guy or girl of your dreams you’re going to need to start taking massive action.
Here are some things you can do to build up to bigger actions:
- Say Hello to strangers
- Make small-talk with people in lines, elevators,
- Have a conversation with people you would initially deem “out of your league”
- Be friendly with someone, talk to them, and ask for their number in a “no-big-deal” manner.
The whole point of this is to get comfortable with yourself and other people. You’re really just reinforcing your value as a person and making sure you’re becoming the person you want to be.
Be the Person You Dream of Being and You’ll Attract the Guy or Girl of Your Dreams
Once you start changing your mindset and start taking action to change yourself you’ll start to become the person you want to be. And when you do that you’re going to realize that you’ll probably need more help keeping people off of you.
Remember, people that start loving themselves become truly happy. And happy people are sexy people.
Try some of the stuff above and let us know how well it works for you.